The one with the island

Maybe surrounded by, a million people, I still feel all alone...

This was taken from the lyrics of Michael Buble's song, Going Home. We all live in a world where we are surrounded by so many people; friends, family... But do you feel that there are times, despite all the people around you, you still find yourself all alone? I don't mean physically alone, I mean the feeling you get when you cannot find someone to understand the way you feel or what you are going through.

Human life is huge roller-coaster of emotions; good and bad, ups and downs. We go through so much in life and it is good to have people around us to share it with. But the thing is, how much can you really share with others? How many times have you tried to pour out your emotions to someone, just to find that they cannot really grasp the exact way you feel? There is an explanation for this. No two people are the same.

We all have the tendancy to find someone to confide in whenever we feel sad or depressed. We share experiences with those close to us and often try to find comfort or solutions from them. But at the end of the day, how useful can those solutions be? How well can we convey how we feel to others and how accurately can they perceive our problems?

The thing is, whatever we go through in life is all individualized. Other people may have gone through something similar, but never the same. The situations are always different, no matter how similar they may be. Confused? Not really that confusing if you think about it (at least not to me). We tend to seek advise from people whom we think have gone through something similar (there's that word again), hoping that their experience can help shade some light to our situation. Well, no doubt it will, but not as much light as we hoped. Best case scenario, they can point us in the right direction. But the journey is still our own to make.

Now, it maybe a little depressing to read this, however true or untrue you find it. But then again, this is just me thinking out loud. The way I see it, with friends and family close to us, we will never be truly alone. But on the flip side, we will always never truly be not alone either.

"No man is an island". What do you think...?

The one with the lyrics

Kissing A Fool - Michael Buble

You are far
When I could have been your star
You listened to people
Who scared you to death
And from my heart
Strange that you were strong enough
To even make a start
You'll never find
Peace of mind
Till you listen to your heart

People
You can never change the way they feel
Better let them do just what they will
For they will
If you let them steal your heart from you
People
Will always make a lover feel a fool
But you knew I loved you
We could have shown them all
We should have seen love through

Fooled me with the tears in your eyes
Covered me with kisses and lies
So bye
But please don't take my heart

You are far
I'm never gonna be your star
I'll pick up the pieces
And mend my heart
Strange that I was wrong enough
To think you'd love me too
You must have been kissin' a fool
I said you must have been a-kissin' a fool

But remember this
Every other kiss
That you'll ever give
Long as we both live
When you need the hand of another man
One you really can surrender with
I will wait for you
Like I always do
There's something there
That can't compare
With any other

You are far
When I could have been your star
You listened to people
Who scared you to death and from my heart
Strange that I was wrong enough
To think you'd love me too
You must have been kissin' a fool
You must have been kissin' a fool
You must have been kissin' a fool

The one with all the uncertainties

How do you know for sure that whatever you have decided is the right decision? How do you know that whatever choice you make is the right one? The answer... we will NEVER EVER know for sure. We as human beings can only decide and then do what we do best... cope with it.... But it still raises a lot of questions or uncertainties....

Today, I have made two different decisions... one involving my career, and one involving my personal life. My question to everyone is... how do I know that the decisions that I have made is the correct one or not? The answer... pretty simple... we do not know if whatever we decide is correct or wrong. However, we do FEEL that whatever we decide is correct or wrong.

We will never know for sure that whatever we decide today will be the best set of action for a later date. But, that is a gamble that we all have to make. I, for example, do not know if the decision that I made today with regards to my career is going to be beneficial to me or not. But, what I do know is that, I have made a decision, and I will stick to it to see what happens at the end of the tunnel, so to say. Also, I just turned down a chance at a relationship that has been lacking in my life. Whether it is worth it or not, I do not know. But what I do know is that whatever I decide today is the right decision. Whatever ramifications that comes, I will deal with it later.

But what kills me the most is all the 'what if's. What if the decision that I made today for my career is not the right path for me...??? What if it is the right path...??? What if I regret the decision I made with regards to the relationship that I could have had...??? What if it was the right one...??? All uncertainties... every single one of it.



We, as human beings, we do what we do best... we cope. If the decisions that I have made today is wrong, then I will deal with it later, when the consequences come. Otherwise, these are the decisions that I have made, and I will stick to it, for better or for worse...

The one after 11 months

I am pretty sure that in life, there are three things that everyone will think about; what could have been, what is, and what will be. I have had the pleasure of meeting many people in my life and I have noticed one thing. Many dwell on the 'could-have's and 'will-be's, but most people don't take enough time out of their lives to think about the 'what-is'. Me, I have the exact same 'problem'. I keep reflecting on the 'could-have's, I keep worrying about the 'will-be's, but strangely enough, I find that I do not treasure the 'what-is'. Strange how we human beings, given opposable thumbs and superior intellect, dwell on things that we have no control over, yet seem to neglect things that we do.

A couple of weeks ago, I had a chat with a good friend of mine and we spoke about this very issue in the context of a relationship (or lack thereof....). What I learnt out of that conversation is that this friend of mine is a very 'what-is' person, regardless of the situation; work, relationship, life in general. It gave me a better understanding of her and her views on life. But this whole 'what-is' thing just hit me after a few weeks. Here I am, worrying about things I have done in the past and things I am yet to do (or not do) in the future, totally neglecting to see the 'here and now' in my life.

In many ways, I really envy this friend of mine for the way she looks at life. Me, I'm a worry-wort through and through. Have been and probably will be for a long time to come. But, I need to learn that sometimes, I need to just stop and look around. Instead of dwelling in the past (glad to say that I don't do this much) and worrying about the future (sometime I do too much), I need to stop and smell the roses once in a while, just savour the 'here and now' because I heard rumours that once the 'here and now' are gone, it won't come back.

Hey, I am not saying that thinking about the future is not good. In fact, failing to plan is planning to fail. Sounds familiar? It makes sense. But it also makes sense to enjoy the 'here and now'... takes the edge off thinking about the future, don't you think? Just something for everyone to ponder about....